For those of you who believe in looking your best whether its going to the store, going to work or going out to dinner, I am sure you can relate to this story.
My mom encouraged me to write this
Everyday I come into work, there is a co-worker who continues to ask me if my outfit or an item within my outfit is new. Not only does she ask if its new, she has to constantly make a fuss about how nice I look to the point that it becomes the topic of office conversation. I am all for girl power and complimenting your fellow girlfriend on how good she looks, but at some point a line needs to be drawn.
I came in on Monday, as soon as I saw her:
“Is that new?”
Tuesday, “Is that new?”
Wednesday, Is that new?”
Before I stapled her mouth shut, I had to kindly let “Ms. Is That New ” know that she has only known me for a short period of time, so, anything that I wear will be new to her.
After my little talk with her, I called up one of my girlfriends (as I always do when a co-worker annoys me), and dished about what happened. Little did I know, my friend was experiencing the same thing at her job. She had a co-worker who would excessively comment about how nice she looked and even went to the extent of informing her that she was going to go and buy the same exact outfit. WTF!
Why do females do this? Since I am a curvaceous female, I get this a lot, because people think if you are full figured that you are limited when it comes to fashion. When they see how well you put things together, I think maybe they are in awe (or just being jerks).
I run with a crew of very stylish females and this happens to them all the time. It becomes annoying when people start to think that all you care about is your looks or that you spend every dollar you make shopping and that is not the case.
I know you are probably reading this and saying to yourself, “so what, who cares, people are starving in Africa.” If you are, then maybe you are reading the wrong blog.
I just recently discovered ur blog, and I love it! I have this problem as well, and it really gets on my nerves. Just because a woman is always on point with being fly and stylish, does not give others the right, to ask you, Where did you get that, or is that new??? I’m glad I’m not the only one experiencing this, because I’ve asked my friends, and their like no, that doesn’t happen to them. I thought maybe I was tripping out!!! Plus I’m out here in Sacramento, CA, which is the Valley, and I always get the stares, wherever I go. It’s annoying at times, but I try to keep it moving!
Michelle Gomez says
Although this from 2009, I so can relate. Even as my lightest weight of being plus size (I wore a size 14) ppl always questioned me too and now my heaviest at a size 20-24 I’m constantly harassed they way were and one lady always made it a thing to say “you are a thicker girl but you are clean and can dress your butt off”. “No! I can dress because I can dress and weight has nothing to fo with it”.. Ugh. I wrote this April 20, 2021. I love the new layout of the blog..