Hey curvy girls all over the world,
I recently had lunch with a friend and we were discussing body insecurities. Something every man, woman, and child has. No one is exempt from having them. In our conversation, I mentioned to her how I overcame one of my biggest insecurities. Having big arms. In my early to mid twenties, I hated showing my arms. I always felt they looked like big turkey legs. I used to try to avoid anything sleeveless and during the summer months, I would wear 3/4 sleeve tops and dresses, only to sweat my life away in 90 degree weather.
Having fat arms is a major insecurity for a myriad of plus size women. In my opinion, its the equivalent of women of a certain age (regardless of size) who hate having that little batwing dangle from their arms as they get older. Wendy Williams always talks about hers. I used to get teased a lot about having big arms. Whenever I would walk down the street, I felt like everyone and their mother was staring at the turkey legs I had for arms.
It wasn’t until I saw an episode of Oprah that I overcame my insecurity about my arms. She had Star Jones as a guest. This was right after Star finally admitted she had Gastric Bypass surgery. Oprah had mentioned how she used to admire Star’s confidence as a plus size woman and mentioned seeing her in a bathing suit on the beach or something to that affect.
Oprah referenced how Star would wear bathing suits even at 300 pounds. Star Jones said, “Well, what was I supposed to do? Stay in the house, it was hot. So I wore a swimsuit on the beach.” She also said, “I was 300 pounds, so I couldn’t hide anything.”
I cracked up laughing.
In that moment, I felt that I no longer wanted to feel restricted. I no longer wanted to hide my arms. What really stood out to me from what Star said, was at 300 pounds, she couldn’t hide anything. I realized that I was hiding. Something a lot of plus size women do when we are insecure. I thought by covering up my arms, no one would know that I have big arms. The truth is, I wasn’t fooling anyone but myself. I was and am a big girl and I have big arms. So what (In my Tyra Banks voice)!
From that episode on, I never hid my arms again. Even now, when I am bigger than I was in my twenties, I wear sleeveless and strapless. I’m not going to allow my insecurities or other people’s negative comments stop me from living my life or wearing what I want. I encourage you to work through your insecurities and wear the things you thought you couldn’t.
This summer, I felt my insecurities creeping back up but I decided I won’t let it get the best of me. So, last week, I slipped on this sleeveless white paint splattered dress from Lane Bryant and strolled through Greenpoint Brooklyn with confidence. This wasn’t fake confidence. This was true confidence for me because I never want to hide or feel ashamed of my body ever again.
I thought this Lane Bryant dress was super cute. It boosted my confidence even more. While many plus size women sometimes hate clothes. I’ve always used clothes as a confidence builder. Finding a piece of clothing that makes you feel and look your best is an instant confidence booster.
How have you overcome one or any of your body insecurities?